circle of life

What to say? I made longanisa the other day and found myself singing Longanisa…Longanisa…men have named you…(to the tune of Mona Lisa) And I remember dad singing that. He loved Nat King Cole. And it wasn’t sad — a happy memory. Thanks, dad. Wrapping my head around aging and mortality. Meanwhile, Jordan is 9 months old today. Beau and Emily; Andy and Kimberly are expecting babies any day now. Jake …

Eulogy for Elias K. Oyzon

by John Elliot Oyzon (aka Beau) Is the world a darker place, now that one of its brightest lights has moved on to the next stage? Not if I have anything to do with it, because it’s incumbent upon us to shine that much more brightly to honor the man who showed us how. Elias K. Oyzon was my dad, my hero, and my greatest teacher. His lessons will always …

outside the center

I’m sleeping with mom. She went to bed before me and I left her there. I check to make sure she is still breathing. I’m doing that thing.  We all are doing it. I think this may be the longest time she’s been able to sleep in days. I left her there. Get some rest. I smell coffee and hear the sneeze. Great! Dad’s making the coffee. I hear the shuffling in …

Elias Kausin Oyzon, 80

Born on 02/16/1933 to Margaritta Kausin and Proceso Albaran Oyzon departed this life on Monday, December 30,2013 Survivors include his wife, Paraluman Lomy) Oyzon; daughters Elouise Oyzon of Rochester, NY; Elice R Oyzon of Stafford, Va; Elaine Oyzon-Mast of Atlanta, GA; sons, John Elliott Oyzon of Phoenix, AZ and Benjamin E Oyzon of Brooklyn, NY; sons-in-law James McMurtrie; Chakib El Ghazzali; and Curtis Mast. He was wonderfully blessed with seven grandsons, Aidan, Connor and Gabriel McMurtrie, twins Elias Robert and Ethan Arthur and Evan …

laugh, cry, hug

Leece lives here. She’s been taking care of a lot of the minutinae since it all began. Benny got home, dumped his bag, repacked it and right back on the train and was here to support mom in mere hours. The boys and I arrived last night. Elaine and family arrives in a few hours; (Beau) gets here tomorrow. So many people are coming from North, South, East and West. Mom…well, all of us, …

Family

Watching sympathy and celebration unfold in pictures and stories, in nods of acknowledgement and words of support. It’s mostly love. All of it really. Cousins I don’t know. Nephews and nieces. Far flung family. All all all our friends that my parents have welcomed into our home. Family.

It takes a village

The village cares for me. They also care a great deal for my boys. They took off for Philly. I spent the day in the room watching Avatar – the Last Airbender, napping and when Matt came back got a chance to see Andy and Kim for a bit. My story of yesterday not so interesting. Kim got to be the sole representation of any estrogen on their trip into …

Landed

Vague memories of cross country trips in hotels with kitchenettes, of sitting in the back piled on one another, of some little sibling sleeping heavily on my shoulder. Mom had a baby on her lap in the front. Three cars, a boy in each. I have no doubt Aidan was getting edified by Matt, Badger and Ed. He says he was coping. I swapped cars with Mark after the stromboli. …