It’s nice to be asked. So, the first date is to check if there is any chemistry at all. Could there be something there? There might, rabbit. There might. Do I have the energy and ability to see if there might is more? For this one, I think I do. Baby steps. I say, “yes.”
Though felt deeply, negative emotions in the Philippines aren’t always expressed easily or in a straightforward way. “Because we are emotional, we tend to hide if we don’t feel good about a person, things or events,” said Philippines native Ulysis Cababan who works for RapidVisa in Cebu City. “We tend to keep it in, or worse, we talk about it to other people, creating gossip. I think you are not …
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Relationships are work. They are. Any human interactions are. There is a cost in friction because you and another are not the same. Besides, what fun would that be? That would be somewhat masturbatory, wouldn’t it? But we bond with another because they make our lives better somehow. They give us a different way of looking at the world because their eyes are not our eyes; their view is filtered …
“How are you doing?” “Okay.” I reply. “Just okay?” “That’s plenty.” And it would be, if I really was up to the level of okay.
Each of us is born with a box of matches inside us but we can’t strike them all by ourselves; we need oxygen and a candle to help. In this case, the oxygen for example, would come from the breath of the person you love; the candle would be any kind of food, music, caress, word, or sound that engenders the explosion that lights one of the matches. For …
Diane Lane is that older woman in a romantic comedy goddess that gives me hope. Bonus, I have a major crush on the hot mess that is John Cusack. In the last few months I have had (I think) six first dates, one two-dater, and three times I have been stood up. I now know that a “night cap” is code, as is “netflix and chill”. Three were looking for …
I am ugly. I am beautiful. The declarative changes throughout the day. The body doesn’t really change…give or take a shower and how many hours of sleep one has had. So it is in the eye of the beholder, even if it is one’s self. Insert requisite selfie here. But that too is changeable and edited by selection and light and your opinion.
There is an energy cost to interaction… at least for us introverted sorts. Some promising fun and funny and smart and dare I say, cute guys on the online dating site. It sounds like so much work to do the small talk. Finding no-mana-cost folk is nontrivial. Continuing the analogy, one has to spend some mana if you’re going to play the game at all. So am I in or …
